On the teenage psychology written mountains of books. However, teachers and parents constantly make the same mistakes. Why? And how to act correctly?We are going to explain you in details below. This is according to our search. The following are the main ten factor given below.
1. Children are not clones of parents in childhood, they are other people. Sometimes it is worth trying to understand them, to remember yourself in adolescence, but at the same time you need to know that their reactions, upbringing, physiology are different than you were.
And it’s not just that now is another time, that in your childhood there were no social networks, gadgets and online games. The main thing is that children almost never repeat their parents. It is not necessary for the parents of the honors pupils to be excellent pupils, and for the obedient and tidy the children will be obedient and neat.
Many family problems and even tragedies happen because parents are trying to make their children happy with what they themselves had been deprived of in childhood, which they only dreamed of. For example, as a child, Dad wanted to become a musician, but he didn’t grow together, and now he almost drives his siblings to a music school with a stick, which is such a happiness! And scions to music are indifferent, football is much more interesting to them. Often the violence ends with the child starting to hate first the music school, and then the music.
There are features of adolescence that should be known and taken into account in order to minimize mistakes in communication with teenage children.
First of all, it would be good to understand what happens to your children when they enter puberty. It’s not just a matter of physiological changes. There are more subtle things, sociocultural stereotypes, which, according to some scholars, have their origin from prehistoric times, when, by the age of 14, young people left their parents and started their own families.
In order to make this break easier, emotional alienation of parents and children was necessary. One of the manifestations of this alienation is the conviction of most adolescents that adults do not understand anything in their “subtle nature” and in general, in life. They listen to the advice arrogantly and ironically grin at your absolutely correct words. It resents, discourages, distresses, but, unfortunately, this is normal.
For both sides, it is better if parents accept the peculiarities of their children’s adolescence, as inevitable and transient troubles. Resent, especially out loud, is not constructive. It is better to translate communication into the plane of mutual respect and mutual attention.
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